When Fixing Becomes the Problem: How to Stop the Cycle of Fear and Step Into Higher Self Abundance

If you missed the first post in this series — the foundation of Higher Self awakening —read “Unlearning the Rules That Dim Your Light” first.

It explores the unconscious rules that shape your perceptionand why awakening begins the moment you first notice something isn’t working.

👉 Read Blog #1 here: https://www.tamralarese.com/post/unlearning-the-rules-that-dim-your-light-how-to-reclaim-your-higher-self-path

Most people believe awakening begins when they realize something in their life is “wrong.”

And yes — that moment of awareness is the beginning.

But the real shift —the moment your consciousness rises,the moment your life truly pivots —happens when you discover something deeper:

**The problem isn’t the problem.

The judgment of the problem is the problem.**

In spiritual reality — in universal truth —there are no “problems.”Only launching points.

💫The Shift From Fear-Based Fixing to Higher Self Creation

Your Higher Self cannot offer you something greater until your current situation becomes tight enough for you to notice that you want more.

We’ve been looking at this backwards.

You don’t want more because your life is lacking. You want more because your Higher Self is signaling:

“More is READY for you.”

• Desire is guidance.

• Discomfort is guidance.

• Contrast is guidance.

They all indicate that an expanded timeline is opening.

But the reason you often don’t hear this message clearly is because:

**Guidance is always sent

in the frequency of your Higher Self —but interpreted in the frequency you’re currently in.**

• When fear is active,you interpret expansion as danger.

• When control is active,you interpret direction as a problem to solve.

• When judgment is active,you interpret desire as something you shouldn’t want.

  
  

Here is the deeper truth:

**You don’t cling to the problem because the problem is real.

You cling to the problem because you were conditioned to believe that fixing problems makes them go away.**

In human logic, this seems true.

In universal truth, the opposite is happening.

When you try to “fix the problem,”you send a clear vibrational signal:

**“I am problem-oriented.”

“I expect problems.”“I am bracing for more of this.”**

The Universe responds to your frequency, not your intentions.

So the more you fix,the more fixing you attract.

Not as punishment —but because your vibration is tuned to problem orientation,not preference orientation.

Your Higher Self is never problem-oriented.

• It is solution-oriented.

• It is preference-oriented.

• It is expansion-oriented.

  
  

So when you see a problem and say:

“Ah — this means I want something more.”

…everything opens.

You shift into alignment with your Higher Self. You become preference-oriented.Your energy rises.Your clarity sharpens.

You become the clear channel your Higher Self SACREDLY DESIGNED YOU TO BE —so the divinity within you, the pure intelligent life force moving through you, can finally create through you.

🐦‍🔥How Higher Self Abundance Flows Through Your Sacred Design

This is your Sacred Design:

To be a vessel through which creation flows.

And when you bring this into your everyday life,you begin to:

• ride the waves instead of resisting them

• cherish contrast instead of panicking

• see growth instead of danger

• embrace desire instead of suppressing it

  
  

And you realize an uncomfortable but liberating truth:

Condemning something as “wrong” is the real insanity.

Condemnation is the act of rejecting the natural order that is actively trying to expand you.

It’s what fractures your identity. It’s what disconnects you from your Higher Self. It’s what obscures your sense of who you really are and why you’re really here.

And yes…this even begins to answer the old question:

“Why do bad things happen?”

Because your Higher Self uses contrast to activate clarity, desire, and expansion —not because anything is going wrong, but because something greater is trying to emerge.

🌿 The Human Self Fixes What It Fears — Not What Needs Fixing

Recently, in a client session, this became crystal clear.

She believed she had a pressing issue that needed to be solved immediately.

But the more she explained, the clearer it became:

She wasn’t trying to solve the issue. She was trying to control her fear.

This is what the human self does:

• When the path isn’t clear

• When expansion is calling

• When identity is shifting

• When the old timeline is dissolving

• When the Higher Self is moving energy

…it grabs onto a “problem” to manage.

Not because the problem is real —but because familiar fear feels saferthan unfamiliar expansion.

We choose fear we can explain over transformation we can’t yet interpret.

🔥 Why Problems Keep Recirculating

When energy is rising, old beliefs look for the easiest place to exit.

They show up as:

• repeating patterns

• recurring anxieties

• old triggers

• sudden disruptions

• obsessive thinking

• spirals that feel like setback

  
  

These are not regression.They are release points.

Your field is clearing.Your mind is calling it crisis.

You’re not failing —you’re shedding.

🌟 The Higher Self Never Sees a Problem — Only a Preference

When my client dropped into the emotional layer beneath the story,

the message was unmistakable:

“Stop fixing what isn’t broken. You’re not off-path — you’re being launched.”

• The human self wants control. The Higher Self wants expansion.

• The human self sees danger. The Higher Self sees direction.

• The human self wants to solve. The Higher Self wants to create.

  
  

Judgment, fear, and over-analysis are painfulbecause they are contractions against your own evolution.

🌈 Surrender Isn’t Passive — It’s Alignment

My client wasn’t struggling with the situation itself.

She was struggling with letting go of control long enough for her Higher Self to lead.

This is where most people get stuck.

Surrender is not collapse. Surrender is the moment you stop constricting your energy and let the timeline already unfolding reach you fully.

It’s the moment your frequency rises to match the guidance you’ve been receiving all along.

It’s the moment clarity returns because you stopped fighting what is trying to emerge.

🌞 A Higher Self Transmission for You

Close your eyes and breathe this in:

**“Your next level is already unfolding.Nothing is going wrong.Nothing needs to be fixed. You are not losing control —you are being guided.

Relax your shoulders. Open your chest. Let your desire speak louder than your fear.

Let joy open the conduit. Let surrender reveal the path.

You are being led forward, not away.

What you call a problemis the signal that something greater is now available to you.”**

Let this truth settle into your nervous system.

This is emotional alchemy. This is Higher Self Leadership.

🌟 Why This Matters for Your Money Story (A Preview of What Comes Next)

If you’ve ever wondered why:

• abundance feels unstable

• finances trigger fear

• money feels tied to identity

• receiving feels difficult

• uncertainty feels threatening

• you brace around change

  
  

…it’s because your money story was shaped during the same early momentsyou learned to fear your own expansion.

Your financial vibration is emotional, not circumstantial.

Trying to “fix your money” keeps you vibrating in the frequency of survival —the very frequency that creates scarcity.

You don’t increase abundance through control.

You increase abundance through alignment.

Blog #3 will take you into this deeper truth:

**Your human created the turbulence —

not your destiny.**

And your Higher Self is ready to show you the differencebetween survival-based manifestingand true abundance through alignment.

⭐ NEXT IN THE SERIES:

“Why Your Old Money Story Still Runs Your Life (And How to Rewrite It from Your Higher Self)”

(Publishing next)

✨ Ready to Step Into Your Higher Self?

Your next level is already unfolding — the only thing missing is your alignment to it.

If you’re ready to shift from fear-based control into Higher Self Leadership, it’s time for your Higher Self Audit.

Together, we’ll reveal the architecture of your true path, refine your frequency, and align you to the abundance your soul has already prepared for you.

👉 Book your Higher Self Audit here: https://www.tamralarese.com/